Sometimes parents split up when they have been fighting and unhappy for a long time. Other times it seems to happen suddenly, when nothing seemed to be wrong. Then it can be hard to understand why they have to split up at all.
There are many reasons why parents decide to split up—as many reasons as there are couples. And with each couple, there might be one big reason or a lot of smaller reasons.
Everyone has their own reasons. Whatever those reasons are, splitting up is never an easy decision. Parents usually try very hard to solve their problems before they decide to split up.
Here are some common reasons why parents separate or divorce:
If you're not sure what your parents’ reasons are for splitting up, you can always ask.
Your parents might be relieved that you asked and give you a direct answer, or they might want to keep it private. They might not be able to give you a clear answer because they're not all that clear about it.
When you ask your parents why they’re splitting up, they might tell you things that you don't need to know. For example, one parent could say really hurtful things about the other parent. If that happens, tell the parent that it hurts you to hear this, and ask him or her to stop.
No matter what kind of answer your parents give you, the most important thing is that you are not the reason that your parents split up. It's not your fault!
Your parents are still your parents. They still love you, even if they don't love each other anymore.
Remember: Parents split up with each other because of problems in their relationship. They don't split up with, or because of, their kids.