When your parents live together, they are both responsible for taking care of you. When your parents stop living together, this might change.
For example, your parents need to agree on where you will live or when you will spend time with each parent. If they can’t agree, then the court will ask a Mediator to help them sort it out. If they still don’t agree, a court Magistrate or Judge may decide. The court can order “shared,” “divided,” or “primary” parental rights and responsibilities.
Parental rights and responsibilities are divided into legal rights and responsibilities and physical rights and responsibilities.
If one parent has primary rights and responsibilities, the other parent usually has “parent-child contact.” Parent-child contact is the schedule for spending time with your parents. There are lots of different ways to arrange how you spend time with your other parent. It might be for a few hours a week, a few days a week, just weekends, during school vacations or another schedule that fits your family. If the parent lives far away, the plan can also include keeping in touch in other ways, like phone calls, e-mails, letters and online meetings. The times may be very specific—spelling out hours and days for visits—or very general and flexible.
Here are some things that a Judge will consider when making decisions about “parental rights and responsibilities:”
Most of the time, the court will not want your parents to involve you in decisions about when you see each parent or how you are taken care of. This is because the court doesn’t want you to be put in the middle of these decisions or to have to choose one parent over the other.
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