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What are my child’s rights and responsibilities?

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Your kids may not want to talk about being worried or frightened. They may try to hide their feelings about your break up. You can help by talking to them about their rights and responsibilities. Talking about this will let them know that:

  • They can ask questions.
  • It is OK to talk about their feelings.
  • They can speak up if they feel stuck in the middle.
  • You love them.
  • They will be taken care of, no matter what.

It is important that your kids know these things. It is especially important that you tell them how much you love them.

Review the “Rights & Responsibilities” in the Kids’ Guide and the Teen Guide before you talk to your children about this. This will help you get ready to talk to your children.

Children of all ages have the right to:

  • Express their feelings.
  • Ask questions about what is going to happen and why.
  • Love and be loved by both parents.
  • Feel safe.
  • Talk to someone if they need help.
  • Not take sides.
  • Not choose between parents.
  • Not carry messages between their parents.
  • Not hear their parents say bad things about each other.
  • Not have to take care of a parent.
  • Not have adult worries.

Children have a responsibility to:

  • Express their feelings in a way that doesn’t hurt other people or things.
  • Speak up if their parents are asking them to do things that don’t feel right.
  • Ask for help if they need it.

Your children’s rights relate directly to your responsibilities as a parent. Respect and protect your children’s rights. For example, if you say bad things about the other parent in front of your child, you are ignoring your child’s right to not hear those things.

Knowing about rights and responsibilities is a good first step. You might make mistakes along the way. That’s OK; just keeping trying!

Read “How do I stay focused on the important things?” for information and tips about keeping your own feelings separate from your responsibilities as a parent.